Vita’s Story

Posted: January 9, 2013 in Vita
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I have talked about Vita in 2 previous posts.  The first was Luck Be A Lady, in which I introduced you all to her and the origin of my lucky rock.  The second was Her Name Is Vita.  In that one I told you a strange story of how I came to know her name and possess her business card.  Today I get to bring a little more insight into Vita’s story.

Just like all the other Vita stories, this one begins with me at work grinding out the day.  It was a day just like every other day, with me counting the seconds till I go home, and then she walked through the door.  The second her eyes locked on to me she began to glow and smiled bigger than Ralphie  when he opened his Official Red Ryder Carbine-Action Two-Hundred-Shot Range Model Air Rifle Christmas morning.

She grabbed my hand, held it to her cheek, said a prayer and then kissed it.  She asked me how I was.  I replied that I was doing well, and in return asked her how she was doing.  She got a little misty eyed and was barely smiling anymore.  Before she could answer I grabbed her hand and told her it would get better.  I had no idea what was bothering her but it was obvious that something was on her mind.

She started to cry and asked if she could talk to me.  Without hesitation I had someone cover me and quickly escorted her to a room where we could talk. Vita would then tell me her story.  It was a story filled with heartbreak and sorrow.  I have thought long an hard about how I would share her story with you and I decided that I won’t go into every detail because there are some things  that should be kept between Vita and I.

I guess the best way to share her story without making this post into a full blown novel would be to list some of the key points of the story.

Was given away by her mother at a young age:  This wasn’t you typical adoption story.  It was more like her mother decided she didn’t want to be bothered with a family anymore so she threw her daughter away like last nights leftovers.  Another family was gracious enough to welcome Vita into their family and thus began her life.

Watched her 15 year old son shoot his father in the head:  Vita married a man she thought was a great guy.  He already had a son who Vita began to raise as her own.  While Vita wasn’t his biological mother the boy loved her just the same.  Vita’s husband ended up being a monster.  He viciously beat her and raped her on a daily basis.  Not being able to watch his mother go through this anymore the 15 year old boy picked up a gun and shot his dad in the head.

Saying goodbye to her best friend:  Throughout her years Vita had an amazing friend that was almost like a sister to her.  She stood by her through the best times and the times that pure hell.  It became her friends mission in life to give Vita the life she knew she deserved.  Its because of her friend, Vita is now married to an amazing man who treats her like a queen.  Vita had finally found a man that loved her and a friend that redefined loyalty.  Unfortunately the story has a very sad ending.  Her friend would become ill and ultimately pass away.  As her life was fading her friend made one last call to Vita.  The 2 talked till she took her last breath.  She died in her bed talking to Vita while holding a picture of the 2 of them.  Her daughter later told Vita, she couldn’t have picked a better way for her mother to leave this world.

So there are a few of the highlights (for lack of a better word) of her story.  I would be lying if I said there weren’t times during the story that I didn’t get choked up a bit.  For whatever reason, I feel really connected to this woman.  She has been a part of my life now for a couple of years and I hope she hangs around for many more to come.

  1. OneHotMess says:

    You are a good man, Nick. I have a son named Nicholas who is about your age. He’s a good man, too. I pray he’d take the time you did to listen. Xoxoxo

  2. How wonderful that you took the time to talk to her.


  3. grannyK says:

    So sad 😦 It’s wonderful that she has you to listen to her! Sometimes you just need to be heard.

  4. jadesandwich says:

    It breaks my heart that stories like her’s exist. At least she had someone to talk to…

  5. klrs09 says:

    Wonderful of you to be her friend — it sounds like she’s had her share of misery. By the way, her story would make a great book!

  6. strawberryquicksand says:

    I always like to take the time to listen to people because you just never know when someone really needs a hug or just someone to listen. So many people go about their daily lives and you never know their stories because they are strangers to you. I think people are more amazing than we tend to give them credit for. I’m glad you and Vita have struck a chord. It sounds like it’s about bloody time her life turned around and gave her some happiness. And yes, the lucky rock is lucky. It’s lucky, because you know Vita.

    • I had to respond to strawberry’s reply, b/c I too believe that listening to a person who seems to be having a tough day is the one best possible thing you could do for them. I work at a job where I hear people’s life stories quite frequently and although I admit to tuning some out, there are just those you know you have to take a moment and let them talk….b/c that’s all they need. Maybe we should all take a moment to really listen?

  7. Love this post… Nick I have a question for you! I want you to be my 2nd guest blogger, my first was the person who asked me to guest blog for the first time but I would love it if you would write a post of your choice of topic and email it to me: along with some images… I would be more then honored! 🙂 Hope you are very well! x

  8. Vickie Coffey says:

    What an awesome story Nick… You are a very special Person….. Love You

  9. Mysteriously Quiet says:

    I have nominated you for The Very Inspiring Blogger Award. Please follow the link below for the rules

  10. Here’s hoping she will. She’s blessed to have a friend like you to help her through her life’s journey.

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