About a month ago I started writing posts about looking for my sister. You can read those posts here, here, here and here. In my last post I stated that I would be giving it a rest. I never gave up on looking, but after I found them I wanted to give them time to take all of it in and make a decision to talk to me or not. It took a little over a month, but I can now say that I have officially found my sisters.
She reached out and contacted me last night and we talked for a little over an hour. Her name is Christine and she lives in Missouri with her boyfriend and their son. It was also confirmed that I have another sister named Lillie who lives in California and is expecting her first child as well.
And that’s not all. I guess Johnny Baby Seed (our dad) has been planting his seeds all over the place including back home in Jersey where this all started. I found out last night that I also have another brother. He his 3 years old, and his name is James (my middle name). I honestly have no words. I kind of figured that there might be more children out there sired by him but I never once expected to find out there was one as early as 3 years ago.
Its sad, but I would assume I will never meet young James. I would figure the only way to be a part of his life would have to be to go through his dad and that is something I would never do. In my 34 years I have only seen my dad about 6 times, the last time being 17 years ago. There was one point in time that I really did want him to be a part of my life, but those feelings have passed just as the years have.
Although I have no love for the man, I honestly don’t have any hate for him either. I wish him and his family the best in life, but as far as I’m concerned he is just some guy that I met a few times who gave me a baseball mitt once. I have lived 34 years without a dad and I can only assume I will make it through the next 34 just fine without one as well.
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(((hugs))) I’m glad you found your sister’s and some things are coming full circle for you. Good things ARE coming to you in 2013!!
So glad you were able to contact at least one of them. Who knows what doors may open now. I wish you all the best with your sisters.
I’m so glad one of them reached out to you – and that it didn’t end horribly! I hope this is a start to something more, for everyone.
I’m so happy you found them! BIG HUG and that’s great you spoke for so long, its a shame about your Dad but I can relate to that, my Dads only started taking interest in my life since I been making more money then him lol me n my bro don’t need him I bet if your Dad saw your blog he would wanna know u, hell I wanted to know u as soon as I saw your blog, your a great writer, pleased to get 2 posts from u in 2 days! Its their loss! The main thing is that you have found your sisters! All the best!
I’m so glad she contacted you!
Wow, so glad you have established contact with your sister!
Nick, I will pray that your sisters love on you like crazy and that you build a family from all of this seed sowing. I will also pray that you meet the little one. He needs a good man in his life. Xoxoxo
I can totally relate. I can take or leave my dad, Glad your sisters reached out to you. That’s a nice way to start the new year!!!!!
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I was really happy to read this. I’m so glad you had the wisdom to let it rest for a while, and then you heard from your sister. What a nice way to start the new year. Happy New Year to you.
I’m so happy you’ve found your siblings — that’s wonderful.
Wow! I’m lost for words. Your dad sounds like a right tart. I hope that you and your sisters get to know each other. What a great start to the new year that would be for you! I’m really happy for you that Christine got in touch with you. I am sure you’ve heard it before… but anyone can be a father. It takes a special person to be a dad and clearly, your father does not possess those qualities! Have an awesome 2013 and keep us posted!!! xo
Just make sure your kid doesn’t have to say the same about you… Good luck with the new year brother.
I’m glad your search has ended. More doors will open in 2013 and I wish you the happiest New Year ever!
They say you can’t choose your family. But I think sometimes you can. Good luck and best of wishes as this grows…
I am happy for you and your siblings. I hope all of you meet and managed to build a friendship, if not a family, together. Even young James. What a great blessing for you.
Whatever happens in the future Nick, you turned out to be a hell of a guy. And someday, if you so choose, I think you would make a great dad, in part because you know what you would have wanted in a father. Seeing things through your kids eyes heals a lot of the hurt from your past.
Happy New Year!