Searching For My Sister Update (FOUND HER)

Posted: December 29, 2012 in Searching For My Sister
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About a month ago I started writing posts about looking for my sister. You can read those posts here, herehere and here.  In my last post I stated that I would be giving it a rest.  I never gave up on looking, but after I found them I wanted to give them time to take all of it in and make a decision to talk to me or not.  It took a little over a month, but I can now say that I have officially found my sisters.

She reached out and contacted me last night and we talked for a little over an hour.  Her name is Christine and she lives in Missouri with her boyfriend and their son.  It was also confirmed that I have another sister named Lillie who lives in California and is expecting her first child as well.

And that’s not all.  I guess Johnny Baby Seed (our dad) has been planting his seeds all over the place including back home in Jersey where this all started.  I found out last night that I also have another brother.  He his 3 years old, and his name is James (my middle name).  I honestly have no words.  I kind of figured that there might be more children out there sired by him but I never once expected to find out there was one as early as 3 years ago.

Its sad, but I would assume I will never meet young James.  I would figure the only way to be a part of his life would have to be to go through his dad and that is something I would never do.  In my 34 years I have only seen my dad about 6 times, the last time being 17 years ago.  There was one point in time that I really did want him to be a part of my life, but those feelings have passed just as the years have.

Although I have no love for the man, I honestly don’t have any hate for him either.  I wish him and his family the best in life, but as far as I’m concerned he is just some guy that I met a few times who gave me a baseball mitt once.  I have lived 34 years without a dad and I can only assume I will make it through the next 34 just fine without one as well.


  1. Stacia says:

    (((hugs))) I’m glad you found your sister’s and some things are coming full circle for you. Good things ARE coming to you in 2013!!

  2. kristen says:

    So glad you were able to contact at least one of them. Who knows what doors may open now. I wish you all the best with your sisters.

  3. AMooreOn says:

    I’m so glad one of them reached out to you – and that it didn’t end horribly! I hope this is a start to something more, for everyone.

  4. I’m so happy you found them! BIG HUG and that’s great you spoke for so long, its a shame about your Dad but I can relate to that, my Dads only started taking interest in my life since I been making more money then him lol me n my bro don’t need him I bet if your Dad saw your blog he would wanna know u, hell I wanted to know u as soon as I saw your blog, your a great writer, pleased to get 2 posts from u in 2 days! Its their loss! The main thing is that you have found your sisters! All the best!

  5. Holli says:

    I’m so glad she contacted you!

  6. ozonenut says:

    Wow, so glad you have established contact with your sister!

  7. OneHotMess says:

    Nick, I will pray that your sisters love on you like crazy and that you build a family from all of this seed sowing. I will also pray that you meet the little one. He needs a good man in his life. Xoxoxo

  8. I can totally relate. I can take or leave my dad, Glad your sisters reached out to you. That’s a nice way to start the new year!!!!!

  9. I was really happy to read this. I’m so glad you had the wisdom to let it rest for a while, and then you heard from your sister. What a nice way to start the new year. Happy New Year to you.

  10. klrs09 says:

    I’m so happy you’ve found your siblings — that’s wonderful.

  11. strawberryquicksand says:

    Wow! I’m lost for words. Your dad sounds like a right tart. I hope that you and your sisters get to know each other. What a great start to the new year that would be for you! I’m really happy for you that Christine got in touch with you. I am sure you’ve heard it before… but anyone can be a father. It takes a special person to be a dad and clearly, your father does not possess those qualities! Have an awesome 2013 and keep us posted!!! xo

  12. bgddyjim says:

    Just make sure your kid doesn’t have to say the same about you… Good luck with the new year brother.

  13. mmadonna1 says:

    I’m glad your search has ended. More doors will open in 2013 and I wish you the happiest New Year ever!

  14. Jean says:

    They say you can’t choose your family. But I think sometimes you can. Good luck and best of wishes as this grows…

  15. Karron says:

    I am happy for you and your siblings. I hope all of you meet and managed to build a friendship, if not a family, together. Even young James. What a great blessing for you.

  16. Whatever happens in the future Nick, you turned out to be a hell of a guy. And someday, if you so choose, I think you would make a great dad, in part because you know what you would have wanted in a father. Seeing things through your kids eyes heals a lot of the hurt from your past.

    Happy New Year!

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