So for you die hard readers out there (all 2 of you) you might have noticed my writing has been a bit sporadic lately. Things around me have been occupying my mind and not giving much time to write as much as I would like to, but hopefully that will change and I can get back to writing .
So what is going on in my life right now you ask? Well besides work and bills I have set out on a mission to find my long lost sister. Yeah, I have a long lost sister 🙂
My father (I use that term very loosely) left while I was a bun in the oven and went off to live his own life. In his travels he ended up out in Sacramento, CA were he met and hopefully fell in love with a woman. They in turn had a baby girl (the long lost sister). I remember them sending me a picture of her as an infant when I was around 10 years old, but that was the last I heard of her.
Things between my dad and his lady friend ended and he moved back to Jersey. Now I honestly don’t care about finding him nor do I even want to talk with him. The way I see it he had many chances to be a dad and opted not to till it was convenient for him. I’m not even bitter about it. I think I grew up just fine without him and I will continue to be just fine now.
My sister on the other hand never got the chance to be my sister. I would love to know where she is and how she is making out in life.
Does she know I exist? Does she keep in contact with our dad? Does she like chicken wings? These are the questions I need answered!! Seriously I would just like to meet her. I have a decent lead that I am investigating so I hope it pays off. If all goes well one of my next posts just might be entitled “FOUND HER!!”
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Good luck on your quest. I hope you find her and you two have a loving lasting relationship..
Thank you! I get a feeling I will need all the luck I can get.
You know, your feelings toward your “dad” and mine are very similar. Oddly enough, I, too, have a sister. I found out about her existance in one of his random Christmas cards. Fortunately I was able to build a pseudorelationship with her. She’s 15 years younger than I am. I’ve met her twice and we’re friends on facebook. We occassionally talk on the phone or online. Although I don’t know her well, I cherish what we have.
Good luck finding your sister!
I really don’t know what I want out of all of this. I guess I really just want to know a little about her. I lost a brother and even though I never met her, I feel like I have lost her too. I would honestly leave it up to her as to what kind of relationship we will or will not have. For all I know she won’t want one at all, but I just need to know she is still out there.
I get it. Believe me. I’ve reached out to my half sister and I know she looks up to me, but our worlds are so completely different. She was raised by my dad, and I think because of that our views of the world and what we can make of our lives is very different. She’s perfectly happy being a hostess in one of the hotels on the strip in Vegas. I shouldn’t be surprised. When I met her for the first time, she was 7 or 8 and she told me then that her dream was to be one of the cocktail waitresses because she loved their shoes and their “fancy” outfits. Very different than the way my mom taught us to dream with no limits to what we could do.
And don’t get me wrong, I don’t look down on her…at all! I’m happy she’s living her dream. I just wonder if she’d been raised differently, would the bar she set for herself been different? Who knows.
But I care about her and want to see her happy. I’m okay with the fact I don’t have a close relationship with her. I know where she is and who she is…and for me, that’s enough. If she ever wants more, I’ll be there.
Really, it’s all we can do. Right?
I really hope you find what you’re looking for! I’d love to hear a great happy ending to this. Good luck!!
Thank you April! I am hoping for a happy ending too!
I think this is awesome! My 2nd ex husband has never seen “my” son, and my son who is now 14, was told at age 11 of the bio dad. He is a well adjusted kid for not having a “dad” around, and is better off for it. BUT….bio dad has an older daughter, 20, (my ex step daughter) and a younger daughter, 8. who my son would like to meet one day. I encourage that, as it’s not any of the kids faults. Like you, he could care less about his bio dad, but is naturally curious to meet the sisters.
I think it’s such a good thing and I can’t wait to hear more of your story! Almost brings tears to my eyes….
Thank you Stacia!! Its funny, when I was a kid I always felt like i was missing something by not having my bio dad around, but then he would show up and I will realize I wasn’t missing a damn thing. I hope your son and I get to meet our sisters and have a great relationship with them.
Good luck Nick, she will be a very lucky lady to have you as her big brother
Thank you Steven, I really appreciate that!
Good luck man. I hope your lead proves worthwhile and you’re able to someday meet your sister.
Thank you Austin
Met my half brothers and sisters, it was ‘bitter sweet’. Beware… You may love or dislike what you find. It’s something you just have to do though isn’t it…
Good luck!!!!
Thank you
I wish you the best of luck!! Very lovely post!
Aw, good luck! That would be awesome if you found her. 😀
At times I wonder if my sperm donor made any other deposits in this world. I would love to have some type of relationship with those siblings if he did. I’m like you though, I could care less what he’s made of his life, although I do wonder how I am going to look when I’m in the autumn of my years or he has some type of health history that I need to be aware of. Oh well….
I honestly can’t remember what my sperm donor even looks like. Its been 20 plus years since I’ve seen him.
I have one picture of the douche. There was like two or three but my mother tells me that I tore him out of the other ones when I was an infant.
Best of luck in finding her! Do you have many details to follow up?
I thought I had a great lead because my mother new the woman my dad had my sister with. I found her on facebook but so far she has not responded to my messages.
I hope it is a matter of her being really busy and not deliberately ignoring you.
Good luck brotha! My “father” aka Sperm Donor (opps did I say that).. he just had a baby. I do not speak to him only through e-mail.. he is an alcoholic and just had a child. Breaks my heart for my little innocent precious sister…
Thank you!
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I hope you’ll find her, best of luck!
I just read your post and sincerely hope you find your sister. You have the same biological father; maybe you have more in common than you think. Good luck!
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