Keep Your Past, I’ll Take My Future

Posted: September 11, 2012 in Random Thoughts, Rantings
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Have you ever lost touch with someone like an old girlfriend and then out of the blue they contact you?  Its starts off innocently enough with the normal, “how ya been?”  And then it starts to become awkward.  They start to bring up old letters you wrote that they still have, and that they felt things between you were left unfinished.  They know you are married but still say inappropriate things to you.

If any of you out there have dealt with this then you know how I feel right now.  I met someone when I was around 13 years old.  We hit it off and became friends and then more than friends.  I guess you could say we were in a relationship and we probably even said we loved each other.  We were kids though.  Back then if you dated someone for more than a week you were considered in love.

Anyway things happened and we lost touch.  That was 20 years ago.  About 8 months ago she found me on Facebook and we started to chat.  I thought it was nice to catch up but then it became weird.  The friendly chatting became just about an everyday thing.  It seemed like she wanted more of my time than I was comfortable with.

To make things more strange she would always ask me when my wife wasn’t going to be home so we could talk.  That’s where I shut her down.  First off I tell my wife everything, and anything you can tell me you can say in front of her.  Secondly, what a fucking creeper this bitch was.

I ended up blocking her on Facebook and wiping my hands of her.  I thought I was done with it and then last week I get a msg on my Talkin’ Shit fan page on Facebook.  It said something like, “I know your wife doesn’t want you talking to me but I miss you and I like your blog.”  My wife had nothing to do with blocking her.  That was all me.  I am a grown ass man and even though I love and respect my wife she doesn’t tell me what to do.

Here’s the thing kids.  Whatever this girl and I had it is long gone.  It was nice to have a little reunion but that is all there is to it.  She is living way too much in the past while right now I am all about the future.  I will never forget where I’ve come from, and the people I have met along the way but there are somethings you need to set aside to move forward and unfortunately for her she is one of them.

Comments
  1. Khristine says:

    That’s really creepy. I understand where you’re coming from and I think I’ve dealt with one recently. An ex started yapping about how I’m beautiful and what not… that even though we didn’t make it, if it’s still possible to be friends and if he can get my number. I shut him down right there. It’s like… I don’t understand why exes would do that? They see that you’re happily taken and then they try to re-live the past. Bottom line is, some people are just stuck in the past that they got to see it all through… we’re in 2012 now and we’re almost to 2013.

    • Nick says:

      Ugh that’s so creepy. I have a friend that just told me a story today about one of her fiance’s past girlfriends. They were out having dinner and the ex was driving past the restaurant and recognized his car so she pulled over walked into the restaurant. She saw my friend and her fiance having dinner so she left and then sent him a text about it. Who the hell does that??

  2. Irene says:

    Some women just don’t know when to move on. Just ignore her. Think of her as spam. Don’t acknowledge her in any way. Hopefully, she’ll go away.

  3. nowtnorsummat says:

    Thankfully for me, the couple of past beaus who have found me on Facebook have basically taken one look & scarpered! I think I must be like one of those bad smells or tastes that, over time, you believe can’t possibly have been THAT bad, then go back to it & realise it WAS. Not that I’m actually bad or horrible; men just don’t like to be reminded that they fancied the Fat Chick who’s still FAT!

  4. ever see fatal attraction…..oops..sorry

  5. tauromaja says:

    I’ve had that happen a lot to me. Old flames remember me and 14 years after we were going out, they FB me. In my case, however, they’ve always been the guys who remembered what a nice time we had and don’t seem to remember how bitchy I was to them. I kind of get a little ashamed by my past behavior and have said my multiple sorrys (God, what a bitch I was!). I don’t know this woman in your case but I suppose you’ll just have to see it as a complement to how you were as a kid and that now, as an adult, you have this very loving relationship with your wife.

    And that’s all that really is important.

    • Nick says:

      Its funny because I was thinking the same thing about myself. I am not a self-hating person, I don’t see myself as a great catch by any means. Its strange that a girl would still carry a flame for me after so many years. Oh well I really don’t care what people think of me anymore. I have a beautiful woman that loves me and I love her.

  6. Neckbones says:

    Forget the past? That would mean destroying my LP’s among other things. There are some things to forget and others to hold onto. Especially when the future don’t look so good in those areas.

  7. daddynaz says:

    Made me smile. Effing true about this shit, mate.

  8. Evie Garone says:

    Really….the chick needs to get a life NOW! Good on you that you dumped her right away in the present! I talked to a few exes and defriended after catching up … there is no future with exes, as you said, happily married and good with it! Like your blog…

    • Nick says:

      Thank you! I agree with you. I suppose there are people that can still remain friends after a break up, but in my opinion they should just go their separate ways.

  9. Kudos to you for cutting off contact with her. She sounds a little Glenn Close to me.

  10. sued51 says:

    Good for you for stopping that…I know more marriages that have broken up or had problems because of Facebook!

  11. perlesink says:

    She’s definitely a crazy. I’ve run across a few in my life, and I removed them immediately. You cannot be civil with those kinds of people, they rewrite it all to suite their fantasy. I avoid crazy at all costs. Block her, label any of her posts as spam. Good luck.
    ps
    Thanks for stopping by my blog.

  12. […] Nick who is unapologetic, in-your-face and calls it like he sees it! […]

  13. It’s really sad to see how blatantly some people ignore the sanctity of marraige…

  14. dieadisetya says:

    good husband.. two thumbs for you!

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